Don’t Hate, Just Hustle

Written by Jason Ferruggia Topics: Motivation

Dont-just-hate-hustle1-229x300Snooki’s on the cover of this weeks Rolling Stone and people are pissed. Hell, I’m pissed. As a diehard music fan I seriously question their decision to slap millions of hard working starving artists in the face with this move. Young musicians grow up dreaming of one day making the cover of Rolling Stone and following in the footsteps of Lennon, Dylan, Hendrix, Jagger and … Snooki.

As a music fan I don’t see how you couldn’t be at least slightly offended by this move. But you don’t have to hate Snooki. The general perception is that this girl is nothing more than a drunken, over tanned, brainless, soulless, talentless putz. And that may very well be true.

That’s no reason to hate her, though. As the saying goes, “Don’t hate the player, hate the game.”

When you hate someone it just takes positive energy away from you; energy you could be using to make your own life better. If you want to hate someone hate Hitler or Qaddafi. Or maybe Usher or Beyonce for taking millions of dollars and playing shows for him.

Not Snooki, though. She’s only doing what any of us would do if given the opportunity. If MTV offered the majority of us a show we’d take it. And if colleges and night clubs wanted to give us $15,000-$25,000 just to make a two hour appearance we’d be there with a smile. And a fake tan.

Before hating on Snooki maybe the real question we should be asking ourselves is could we do what she’s doing if the opportunity was thrust upon us? She’s got jewelry, slippers and books coming out. Next on the agenda is her own show.

She may appear to do nothing more than drink but she’s also hustling.

While she may not be Mensa material she was smart enough to know how the game is played and capitalize on any and every opportunity she had.

“The first season, we definitely amped it up, because we didn’t know if the show was going to air, so we went all out,” she says in Rolling Stone. “But I kind of party a little too much, to where I don’t want to, but if I don’t, I know I’m not going to get airtime, that hurts you in the end.”

That doesn’t sound like too much of a dummy to me. Unless you’ve got your own show on MTV it would seem pointless to waste your own positive energy hating on someone who is taking an opportunity she was given and making the most of it. Many before her have tried and failed. Many after her will do the same.


Don’t get me wrong; Snooki’s the last person in the world I’d ever want to spend three seconds with. My point is that hate, which in this case is really just jealousy and envy, are traits of unsuccessful, unhappy people. When you’re hating on or jealous of someone else you’re just draining yourself of positive energy, happiness and productivity. Which is precisely why you don’t want to do it.

Another former MTV reality star is now the WWE world heavyweight champion. The Miz was hated by fans and wrestlers alike when he first started. To be honest, I thought it was a joke when I first saw him on WWE television. Then when I heard he became world champion I was sure someone was pulling my leg. But that simply wasn’t the case. The kid out hustled a lot of others and earned respect and his spot at the top.

He’ll never be The Rock or Stone Cold. If those guys were still around he might not even have a contract, never mind a main event spot. But he took his opportunity, busted his ass and capitalized on it. People still hate him because he’s “That kid from MTV who didn’t earn it.” The reality, I’d argue, is that he did earn it and if Vince decides he’s worthy of the strap he’s obviously doing something right.

Remember when everyone hated The Rock for becoming the youngest WWF champ ever? Too much too soon, they all said. Look at him now, haters.

It’s the same with pro athletes. Hang around with groups of less educated people and soon enough the topic of pro athletes being overpaid will come up. Why should basketball players make millions when teachers and cops make a small fraction of that?

The question is a fair one, no doubt, but asking it at this point in US history is ridiculous. That ship has sailed, my friends. Get over it. Hating Kobe Bryant for what he gets paid is about the most asinine thing I could ever think of. If anyone else in the world was offered that amount of money to play basketball, or for that matter, deliver mail, make doughnuts, wash windows, or dig ditches they’d damn sure take it.

When a pro athlete signs a multimillion dollar contract it’s not him being greedy or a bad person. It’s him being smart. What’s he going to do, turn it down and offer to play for thirty grand? The opportunity is there so you take it.

This is the world we live in. It may not be fair or even make one iota of sense. But it is what it is and you need to accept it, move on and let it have ZERO negative impact on your life whatsoever. Hatred is a very self destructive habit.

Besides, you know how much hustle it takes to become a pro athlete? Are you working that hard at whatever you do?

The most successful people I know have no jealousy and they hate no one. There’s no time in there lives for either of those emotions. That’s because they’re too busy making money, changing the world and living their dreams. You can’t be a jealous, hate filled complainer and still be successful. The two simply don’t go hand in hand.

Trust me; I know it can get frustrating sometimes. I’ll wake up occasionally and see a brand new trainer who’s only been in the business for a year selling an ebook. With Twitter, Facebook and blogs it’s too easy these days for someone to proclaim themselves an expert without actually being one.

“These guys didn’t come up the hard way and have to earn it over the last two decades in this industry like me and Alwyn Cosgrove and John Alvino did,” I might think to myself.

But then I realize there’s too little time to worry about that. It’s just more motivation for me to step up my game and get better. As of last week, this site is now one of the most widely read strength training blogs in the entire world. Because of that, in my mind I think I’ve earned my spot. I know, however, that there will always be someone coming up and gunning for me. So I’ll keep out hustling them.

It’s gotta be running wild if you want to be on top.

I’d never want to deny someone the right to make a living. And besides, if social media was around 17 years ago when I got started I’m sure I would have used it.

Instead of hating or being jealous of someone start using it as motivation. If you think they don’t deserve to be where they’re at then you need to take it upon yourself to get to that level.

I heard “The Situation” from The Jersey Shore on the Howard Stern a few months back and listened to callers cursing out Howard for having him as a guest. They were infuriated that he let that” talentless hack” on the air. I only got motivated by it. This kid was sitting in his mom’s basement a year or two earlier and now he’s making millions and appearing as a guest on the most popular radio show of all time.

That tells me it’s time to start working a little harder.

Don’t hate. Just hustle.

39 Responses to Don’t Hate, Just Hustle

  1. Michael March 14, 2011 at 11:01 am #

    Play on player.

  2. Raymond- ZenMyFitness March 14, 2011 at 11:22 am #

    Good positive message to keep a hold on reality.
    Human nature is we all want money, the life style and the girls (maybe not Snooki anyways) as long as other’s don’t have it. If we can get over that we have really grown.

    And that train of thought extends to much more … I think terrorists and religious nuts hiding out there think along the same lines except their hate goes to another level of extreme.
    Cool topic about how to live life.

    • Jason Ferruggia March 16, 2011 at 10:37 am #

      @Raymond- ZenMyFitness: Thanks.

      @Kevin- Very true. C.R.E.A.M indeed

      @AJ- Thanks… I guess. I tried telling people that in high school but I guess they had a hard time believing it with my 1.7 GPA

      @Ryan- Always loved that video.

      @Alex and Mike- Much appreciated, guys.

      @Michael- True

      @Ryan- Saw it. What a difference his presence makes.

      @Alex- Great post. And glad you like the follow up comments addition. Trying to keep it hot.

      @Dan and Loveboy- Thanks

      @Brandon- Damn! Thanks for sharing. Glad to hear you overcame.

  3. Danny Mclarty March 14, 2011 at 11:23 am #


    Snooki inspires me too. That was your point of you making this post, right? Ha! Anyway, well said and motivating. I’m off to prepare my food for the day and work on finishing an article…

  4. Kevin Valluzzi March 14, 2011 at 11:31 am #

    That’s one damn good post my friend. Spot on about “how all these celebrities” make all of this money. a lot of them have worked damn hard to get to that point. and most people would trade spots w them in a heartbeat. it’s just that most people aren’t smart enough or driven enough to go after what they really want. C.R.E.A.M.

  5. AJ March 14, 2011 at 11:38 am #

    Nice article. youre much wiser than you look. hahaha im just kidding, great post.

  6. John March 14, 2011 at 11:46 am #

    Don’t hate just hustle!!! Great post Jason!

  7. Ryan McKane March 14, 2011 at 11:57 am #

    Another great post and one that I needed to hear today. Here is a great clip that goes along with this, Alwyn Cosgrove posted this on his blog last week but it bears repeating. Will Smith gets into some other topics in this but what he says about hard work is on point

  8. alex March 14, 2011 at 12:08 pm #

    Great timing Jay

    I definitely needed those words today. You’re a great inspiration and a role model, thanks for everything!

  9. Mike Smith March 14, 2011 at 12:18 pm #

    Great point Jason, appreciate it.

    Back to hustling…

  10. Michael March 14, 2011 at 12:38 pm #

    Hatred leads to bitterness and once the seed of bitterness is planted it is hard to un-root. And bitterness can easily ruin ones life.

    Good article. I agree, except you could not pay me enough to have a show on mtv. Things like hollywood, mtv, sin city, etc are plagues on this country. Not everyone is sold into immorality so easily.

    Nothing wrong with Pro Sports. They make that much because the fans fund them. Supply and demand.

  11. Ryan Schaefer March 14, 2011 at 12:43 pm #

    In case you didn’t already know….”Finally! The Rock has come back to Monday night RAW!!” If you semellllllllllll what The Rock…is…cookin’!

  12. Alex March 14, 2011 at 1:06 pm #

    I wish i had the time to hate or be jealous of someone, eheh, at the moment i’m a litlle bit too busy takin care of my stuff, and it’s allways been like that..
    Good point J. usually hate is a part of love, people usually hate because they are jealous and being jealous is realizing you cant be like someone..
    I cant understand why everybody who has 2 arms and 2 legs might be jealous of someone else, we all have everything we need to get it too, but most of us are just too scared to try and make it !!!
    Btw nice upgrade on the site with the coment e-mail follow ups and even subscribing without comenting ;)
    Well.. time for my workout now..
    Keep it up !!

  13. Dan March 14, 2011 at 1:26 pm #

    That my friend is one of the most intelligent and inspiring articles I’ve ever read !

  14. loveboy123 March 14, 2011 at 1:27 pm #

    fuck , love this article
    & love this

  15. Brandon Cook March 14, 2011 at 1:46 pm #

    Great post Jason. It’s SO easy to fall into the trap of negativity and hatred. When I was younger I was angry at the world, angry at the people in the world, and for the greed, lies and deception that I perceived. This was a downward spiral that led me into drugs, alcohol, and fighting… and almost to my own death on a few occasions.

    Then I woke the F up and realized that I had to take full responsibility for my own life and how it turned out… or die to what I could become! Weight training was one of the BIG things that helped me turn my life around.

  16. Matt March 14, 2011 at 4:13 pm #

    This rips it up mate~! We’re all responsible for our own fate. I like to liken life to surfing; You go out and don’t know how it will turn out. The waves change with the tide. The waves will break in different spots (will you be there to capitalise?). And if you take off you don’t know whether you’ll get the ride of your life or whether it will just bum out on you. Regardless, you paddle back out for another shot at getting something better!

    • Jason Ferruggia March 16, 2011 at 10:42 am #

      @Matt: Thanks man. Good analogy.

      @Luke- That tells you something.

      @Steve- Very true.

      @Jamin- Testify!

      @Kyle- Exactly

      @Ryan- He sent a hate letter to my mom this time.

      @Vaclav- Glad you liked it.

      @Alex- I love that. Gonna use it

  17. Luke H March 14, 2011 at 4:51 pm #

    Cool post and strangely very true, I do not know many millionaires but the ones I do know are never talking about anyone in a negative way. I have heard them say some people are idiots and then move on to what they were doing. The difference when thinking about them is that they are very must encompassed in their own lives and not much heed is given to things outside of it.

    Make yourelf better, not worry about anyone else!

  18. Steve March 14, 2011 at 5:43 pm #

    Besides making ourselves better, this would make the world a much better, happier place!

  19. Jamin Thompson March 14, 2011 at 6:27 pm #

    Preach brother. Preach.

  20. Kyle R March 14, 2011 at 7:51 pm #

    Nice post. One thing that annoys me is the people who complain about how much athletes, or the like, get paid are ignorant to the hard work involved. These athletes are putting in hours upon hours training with great dedication and doing what it takes to stay healthy. Numerous athletes have shown up to the gym at 5 am everyday to shoot 1000 or so shots to really dial in their game. No one I know sacrifices, dedicates, practices, eat/sleeps/breathes their profession like pro athletes and the like. That kind of passion to make it big and reach things you can only dream of are things to admire about these people.

    Not only that, but a big part of their pay comes from what they are worth to the company/team. When Kobe is playing, people show up to watch him. They buy beer, bring friends, buy food, merchandise etc. They buy lakers gear at stores etc etc. That’s making his value to the team worth more. If you’re pissed at what he makes then stop buying his stuff, quit going to games…’re giving him more money which is the main part of why you hate him.

  21. Ben Swogger March 14, 2011 at 8:15 pm #

    Great post. There is never any room for negative energy, just keep improving yourself! Awesome lesson

  22. Will March 14, 2011 at 8:42 pm #


  23. Ryan Schaefer March 15, 2011 at 7:21 am #

    What would Gary think of this post?

  24. Sgt. Ferguson March 15, 2011 at 10:00 am #

    This is what I needed to read to help clear my head. Like my dad said, answers from Above usually come through other people. Thank you sir.

  25. Vaclav Gregor March 15, 2011 at 1:06 pm #

    Great article. It’s really funny how average unsuccessful people always chat about famous people, about blabla and why they didn’t earn it and that life is not far and so on. Every time somebody starts talking like that I excuse myself, because I have better things to do in my life and thanks to YOU I just realized that I’m doing a right thing that I’m not just being arrogant or whatever.

    BTW I saved this to my PC, it’s brilliant:
    “The most successful people I know have no jealousy and they hate no one. There’s no time in their lives for either of those emotions. That’s because they’re too busy making money, changing the world and living their dreams. You can’t be a jealous, hate filled complainer and still be successful. The two simply don’t go hand in hand.”

  26. Alex March 15, 2011 at 1:35 pm #

    On my psychology classes we were allways reminded of ths :

    – Brilliant minds talk about ideas
    – Average minds talk about events
    – mediocre minds talk about others

    I think this rounds it up ;)

  27. Sam- Look Like An Athlete March 16, 2011 at 11:34 am #

    Right on Jason!
    Hate and jealousy is very common all the time! I am baffled by people who say, “athletes and celebrities are overpaid. Teachers should be making that kind of money blah blah blah,” or “that athlete/ celebrity should take a pay cut or donate 90 percent of their money to charity.”

    Seriously? As you said here, given the chance most of these people would jump at the chance at having that level of success. Admire the level of success others achieve and concentrate less on the negativity.

    Don’t hate, appreciate.


  28. Joseph March 16, 2011 at 5:03 pm #

    Have to admit, I was pissed when I saw the cover. The pictures with the article of her wearing a barrel and sucking on a pickle were priceless. She’s certainly not opposed to “doing what it takes” to get ahead. You’re right though, have to give it to her for the hustle.

  29. Ryan Young May 16, 2012 at 7:34 pm #

    Awesome advice!

    Love ya work!!

  30. Barry Johnson June 7, 2012 at 8:16 pm #

    I only read to this line:
    “She’s only doing what any of us would do if given the opportunity. ”


  31. Bill October 14, 2013 at 11:46 am #

    We have it in all of us to stop making stupid people famous. We have no one to blame but ourselves for letting this game be played. Period.

  32. Paul Mort October 14, 2013 at 12:00 pm #

    My bruddah! you pulled it out the bag with this one.. OUTSTANDING..

    I miss you, your wife and of course, your gottee.xx

  33. Paul Mort October 14, 2013 at 12:01 pm #

    Almost forgot one of my friends ‘plays’ snookie in the UK version of this show.. she’s creaming it in man!


  34. David October 14, 2013 at 12:55 pm #

    Perfect timing for this piece. I am a one-month old at Velosity in Brentwood, CA; been sticking religiously to the Renegade Diet and taking all the advice I can from the ‘free’ stuff you post. (I am saving feverishly to join the inner cirlce!) Never the less, I’m taking this shit very very very seriously and have been losing weight and getting stronger (in just one month); BUT, the gym is like a frickin’ pre-school with a bunch of pre-schoolers running around with their smart phones – texting and glancing at their phones while nay a drop of sweat. Two trainers fun around playing Star Wars with some sort of ‘workout device’ while the other trainer is yawning and looking at his text messages while the kid he trains goes through the motions with horrible form. It’s a paid social club – and yes, I get totally pissed off. I’m there for my 45 minutes of total kick-ass concentration to rock my body into perfection: I have no idea whey ‘they’re’ all there? Anyway, as it pertains to this piece, and only having been lifting for 1 month my inner-voice said, “Don’t worry David, in a year you’re going to be bigger, stronger, quicker, faster and more jacked than all these mother fuckers!”. (I’m going in today at 2pm and I’m going to hustle harder than anybody that stepped foot in that gym today; that makes me proud. I hope I succeed, because next year those mother fuckers might not have a job…and the owner will be looking at me to replace all their asses.) thx

  35. Raphael Tardif January 4, 2014 at 2:28 pm #

    Great post!
    Who the fuck is snookie? Lol

  36. Raphael Tardif January 4, 2014 at 2:43 pm #

    I use to hate Kirk Hammet (Metallica ) so bad!

    He was idolized by countless mediocre guitar players, had won a Grammy for guitar player of the year with the solo from “one” …wich really sucks!

    But then I realized, it doesn’t matter how better I think I am. Fact is, he’s had one of the best career a lead player could have. I on the other hand, have not succeeded in pursuing my dream career!

    So, are some of the most successful people assholes because there are more talented dicks not doing shit with their gift? Nop